Nature VS Nurture

Nature and nurture are complementary to each other. I believe if we understand the nature of humans (men, women, children, adult, etc) then we can establish good nurturing. Reading different theories such as Chodorow’s and Gilligan’s shows human beings have different nature but what’s important is to recognize what type of nurturing is proper to make the society happy?
Human beings have been through the self-discovery process for a long time. Learning more about our nature lets us understand our reactions to this nature and find out how to overcome wild reactions and make more peaceful society with higher quality of nurturing.
In older times, Family had a very big influence in a child’s life to teach socialization rules and values, but as we study in chapter 4 of the book about socialization and the life cycle, now there are many other things that have big influences in different stages of a person’s life. Family still has a big role but besides family, school, media, and peer relationships can have big roles on a person’s life development. These things provide different types of nurture for the person and create a variety of opportunities for better self discovery. Sometimes these potentials can be used peacefully, but sometimes they can be used in a very improper way.
Some examples of different groups in a society can make it clearer.
Now a days, there are a lot of societies that provide more opportunities for women through family, school, and multimedia. The picture on page 101 of the book shows how a Muslim woman becomes a doctor and takes an important role in the society despite of all the limitation for women. There is obviously less discrimination now compared to 30 or 40 years ago. It is an ongoing process but it has had good progress during past few decades. So it implies that nurturing can create more freedom within societies.
Another example is the variety of races that all work together in multicultural groups and are very active in society.
Let’s think about disabled people. They cannot change their nature much but special nurturing in society gives them opportunities of having their own sport teams, comparable education and professional jobs. Basically they can have important roles and live like a “normal” person.
So, nurturing can make a difference and create lots of options for people of all different levels of intelligence. However sometimes, societies/groups might go to extremes and end up having people with too much expectation because they have gotten excessive attention by too much nurturing.